Wednesday, 16 March 2016

Pinterest Perfect

Why I Can't Be Pinterest Perfect

When I'm not blogging (or you know, wasting time on those annoyingly necessary tasks, like sleeping) I'm adding to my collection of vintage magazines. They are full of great advice for the aspiring Super Woman. They’ve taught me that it’s not enough to have good taste in fashion, you ought to be able to run up your outfits yourself from a set of old bed sheets. And it’s not enough just to get your husband's tea on the table - you should fix your face and make sure the kids are being neither seen nor heard before you serve it to him.

Just check out this piece of advice given to Woman's Own readers by 'beauty specialist' Mary Carlyle, back in October 1932:

"I will not listen to the little housewife who tells me she is so busy looking after the house that she has no time to 'bother about herself'. That is sheer bunkum and a woman with that point of view deserves all the heartbreak that is coming to her." 

There are still people out there who think like that, I'm sure, and there are plenty who would put it just as bluntly. Just not in print, unless their name begins with 'K' and ends in 'Hopkins'. But, really, they don't need to because now we are all too busy putting the pressure on ourselves.

It’s not enough these days to have the figure - you’ve got to get it via healthy living, and without the aid of a girdle. And it's not enough just to keep the kids clothed and fed either. You need to ensure their outfit is both ethically sourced and Instagram approved, and that their lunchbox is host to an organic, free range, free trade, additive free, Pinterest worthy masterpiece.

In fact, we all want our lives to be ‘Pinterest Perfect’ or, at the very least, look it to the outside world. As bloggers, we are more guilty of this than most. Because while you might be sat on the sofa in your onesie, struggling to keep your eyes open after a long day of work, housekeeping and cat herding / child rearing, the picture you’re uploading for your blog post is a cropped and edited image of the charmed life. The kids are smiling, the house is spotless, and even the dog is looking cheerful and well groomed for once.

I’m the worst for it. As I write this, the sink is full of dirty dishes, the baby is attempting to eat what looks like yesterday’s regurgitated biscuit, and, although it’s not quite a onesie, my unironed t-shirt and leggings combo isn’t a vast improvement. Not that I’d normally be admitting to it. I want my readers to think I’m sat at a beautifully arranged desk, you know the kind of thing, the sort of workspace which wouldn’t look out of place in a glossy interior mag. I want them to assume I’m wearing a face full of skilfully applied make up and a pair of killer heels, not a mismatched pair of my other half’s socks.


I want to be Pinterest Perfect, I really do. That’s what I tell myself, at any rate. I’m going to get up early to exercise and shower before work and, in the evening, we’re all going to do fun family activities instead of collapsing exhausted in front of the television. I’m going to prepare fresh, wholesome meals that always look inviting, and I’m never going to leave the house without looking like I’ve made at least some effort.

Except that’s a lie. I might for a bit, perhaps I’ll have even stick to one of these pledges long term but, in the end, there were still be days when I’m in my pyjamas at 2pm serving up baked beans on white bread. The truth it that there a finite number of hours in my day, and a million and one things which need to be done in it. I’m not going to choose bleaching (or baking soda-ing) the bathroom grout over cuddles on the sofa, and I won’t be prioritising my hair over an extra 15 minutes in bed in the morning.

I’ll strive for perfection, sure, but I’m not going to beat myself up if I don’t achieve it. Life is too short and I have too many other things to worry about. Mary Carlyle wouldn't be impressed with that excuse, I know. But Mary Carlyle isn’t living my life - I am!





18 comments:

  1. Love this! I was just contemplating writing a post about how inept Pinterest makes me feel. I do love those old vintage magazines though. Back in their day the advice was probably fitting, (mist of it, anyway) but these are very different times!

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    1. They definitely didn't mince their words back then! x

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  2. While our lives, homes and selfies cant look pinterest or instagram perfect, we got to take care of our health and looks as much as we do for our family and kids. We SHOULD NOT neglect ourselves. It's very helpful for our esteem over a long term.

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    1. I don't think it's ever about neglecting ourselves, it's just about not making our appearance the be all and end all.

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  3. Love your honesty! Sounds like a healthier perspective too! That Happiness Project book had a good quote - "best" is good, but "better" is best. I took that to mean that perfect, when it happens to fall into place, is awesome... but in general it's better to keep to your priorities and don't break your neck over the rest. ;)

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    1. Definitely! I'm really trying to focus on what actually matters, rather than spreading myself too thinly trying to do everything! x

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  4. YES! Yes! yes! It didn't even occur to me to pretend Leprechauns had invaded my house and cook an all green breakfast like a few of my Mommy friends. Apparently this is a "thing" now in America. Not for me, that extra 30 minutes of sleep was desperately needed this morning.

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    1. Wow, I can't believe that is really a thing! I prefer magic that happens while they're out, not before they wake up. ;)

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  5. So so true! I want to be that person too but really I am just too exhausted to even make up myself before we go out. Pinterest perfect and Instagram perfect are just another digital magazine - but we do live in a digital age and can not get away from it. But same as you - I wouldn't beat myself over it if I am so not perfect - life too short. Great post! :) Thank you so much for linking up with us on #FabFridayPost

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    1. Totally - I don't want to throw away opportunities to do things just 'cos I don't look as polished as I'd like! x

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  6. I want to be like Snow White when all the animals come into her house to help. That is what happens isn't it haha!! Great post

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    1. It should be!! I might be more inclined to like the outdoors if it helped me out like that ;)

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  7. I totally agree with you! I don't think anyone's life is really Pinterest perfect, unless they have an army of nannies and a LOT of money. Some are just better at hiding the messy reality than others! #FabFridayPost

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    1. Lol, true - if I had a full staff I think even I could manage to look well turned out 24/7!

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  8. This is all a persona though it is a great way to get lost with so many ideas in one place X #effitfriday

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    1. Yeah, there are so many cool ideas on Pinterest!

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  9. I LOVE this! I am more pinterest fail than pinterest perfect, but I try and I think that is the main thing! Says she sat here as the baby tips water all over himself.....x

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    1. Haha, definitely! I say my attempts are 'inspired' by Pinterest... :)

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